Kathryn "Kay" (McNamara) Pote

Born: Wed., Jul. 1, 1931
Died: Thu., Jan. 23, 2020


4:00 PM to 6:00 PM, Fri., Jan. 31, 2020
Location: Cleveland Rd. Location

9:30 AM to 10:30 AM, Sat., Feb. 01, 2020
Location: St. Pius X Catholic Church

Funeral Service

10:30 AM Sat., Feb. 01, 2020
Location: St. Pius X Catholic Church

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Kathryn “Kay” Pote

July 1, 1931 - Jan. 23, 2020

MISHAWAKA, IN - Kathryn “Kay” McNamara Pote, 88, passed away on January 23, 2020. She was born July 1, 1931 in Anamosa, Iowa to the late Ruth (Cook) and John McNamara. Her mother died when she was eight years old and she and her brother were raised by their extraordinary father. She liked to say, “I had the great privilege of being raised by John McNamara.”

Kay graduated from Anamosa High School in 1949 and University of Iowa in 1953 with a degree in vocal music. She was a member of the University of Iowa Scottish Highlander Marching band. After graduation, she began her career as an elementary music teacher. In 1957 she married Thomas Pote. Their young family was transferred to South Bend in 1964. After taking several years off to raise her family, Kay returned to teaching music for the South Bend Community School Corporation, retiring from Swanson School in 1998. She embraced every type of music, regardless of her personal preferences. She felt music brought people together and she encouraged and influenced many area students. She received her Master of Science in Education from IUSB in 1982. Kay had a beautiful soprano voice. She was the soloist for many years at St. Pius X Catholic Church and later sang in their Resurrection Choir. She also sang in the IUSB Symphonic Choir.

Kay was a lifelong learner. Some of her interests and hobbies included golfing with the ladies at Elbel Park and Erskine Park golf courses, running, cross country skiing, playing the piano and ukulele, zip lining, attending musical performances, playing bridge and traveling the world with dear friends, John and (the late) Nancy Lucey.

Kay had a deep and abiding love for her family. She practiced unconditional love. Kay was famous for her Christmas piano performances with family. Her children and grandchildren adored her.

Left to cherish her memory are her children, Tim Pote of South Bend, IN, Phil (Louise) Pote of Farmington, MN, Andrea (Alan) Anselman of Plano, TX, and Mary Elaine (Chris) Mankle of Austin, TX, 10 grandchildren, one great-granddaughter and sister in-law, Mary Sue Pote. She was preceded in death by her husband Tom, her parents, and her brother Donald.

The family wishes to thank the staff at the Waterford at Edison Lakes for making Kay's final years happy and comfortable. And lastly, a huge debt of gratitude to Jan and Mike Leyes along with Jane Darnell, who offered support and friendship throughout Kay's journey. We are humbled by their kindness.

Memorial contributions in Kay's name may be made to, The American Cancer Society, 130 Red Coach Drive, Mishawaka, Indiana 46545.

Visitation will be at Welsheimer Family Funeral Home, 17033 Cleveland Road from 4-6 p.m. Friday, January 31, 2020. The Funeral will be at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday, February 1, 2020 at St Pius X Catholic Church, 52553 Fir Road, Granger, IN with visitation one hour prior to the funeral and a luncheon following the service. Family and friends may leave email condolences at www.welsheimers.com.

Charitable donations may be made in Kathryn's memory to the following organization:

American Cancer Society, Great Lakes Division, Northwest Indiana Office
130 Red Coach Drive, Mishawaka, IN 46545

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Linda McNamara Weiler
   Posted Mon January 27, 2020
Our family would like to express our sympathy for your loss. Kay grew up in Anamosa during the same era as our parents Nadine and Loras McNamara. John was our father's uncle. They always spoke so kindly of Kay, and Dad went out for lunch one day with Kay when she was passing through Anamosa a few years ago. Both of our parents passed away this past year, Dad in February, and Mom in October. It is so very hard to let our treasured ones go. The obituary is beautiful. May you hold all of your memories close to your heart.

With deep sympathy ,
The families of Nadine and Loras McNamara. (Thomas, Jerry, Dave, Dan. Linda and Therese)

Greta Pruitt
   Posted Tue January 28, 2020

Cherished Cross was sent by Greta Pruitt.

From the 1949 Class of Anamosa HS Raiders - to our Beloved Drum Majorette, Kay McNamara Pote

Greta Story Pruitt
   Posted Tue January 28, 2020
Kay McNamara Pote was truly a leader for our entire class - not only the Majorette of the marching band and the choir but for the plays and the operettas! What a woman. Tall and beautiful and very, very talented. We had a 70th high school reunion last May, but Kay was unable to attend. Only six class members remained. We missed her very much. The 1949 Class of Anamosa High School sends it sincere condolences to Kay's beautiful family for having shared this marvelous woman with us throughout high school years.

Chris Ferro
   Posted Fri January 31, 2020

Loving Roses was sent by The Ferro’s.

Our deepest condolences. The entire Ferro family.