Velva Mae (Bere) Gay

Born: Mon., Aug. 20, 1923
Died: Sat., Jul. 8, 2017


10:00 AM to 11:00 AM, Sat., Jul. 22, 2017
Location: 1st United Methodist

Memorial Service

11:00 AM Sat., Jul. 22, 2017
Location: 1st United Methodist

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 Velva M. Gay

Aug. 20, 1923 - July 8, 2017

NEW CARLISLE - Former South Bend resident Velva Mae Gay, 93, of New Carlisle, died at 5:00 a.m. Saturday, July 8th in Hamilton Grove Retirement Community. Mrs. Gay was born August 20, 1923 in Jeffersonville (Clark County), IN to the late Herbert H. Bere and Carol (Grant) Bere.

On July 14, 1945 in New Carlisle, IN Velva married Roger F. Gay who was home on leave from New Guinea, WWII. He preceded her in death in October 1979. She was also preceded in death by her sister, Jean Aeschbach and an infant son. Velva is survived by her twin daughters, Patricia “Trish” Wolf of South Bend and Pamela Walker (John) of Berkeley, CA; sons, Richard Gay, (Karen) of Granger, Dennis Gay (Trisa) of Charlotte, VT, and Roger F. “Skip” Gay Jr. of Langshyttan, Sweden; grandchildren, Adrianne Lange (Brandon), Stephanie Reimann (Kevin), Aaron Hungate, Andrew Gay, Jason Gay (Viktoria), Bradley Wolf (Terri), Melissa Bercaw (George), Miranda Brillante (Rodney) and Caitlin Walker (Mark Baylis); and great-grandchildren, Samantha, Macy, Cooper, Ella, Lucas, Annaliese, Finnley, Freya and Violet.

Velva retired from 23 years teaching in 1986. She was an attentive mother and homemaker for 15 years before returning to the classroom in the South Bend School District at O'Brien and Monroe schools. Velva also served as a supervisor of student teachers for IUSB, and St. Mary's College, and was a very active member of the First United Methodist Church, South Bend.

A Memorial Celebration of Velva's life will be held at 11:00 a.m. Saturday, July 22nd in the chapel of First United Methodist Church, 333 N. Main St. where the family will receive friends from 10:00 a.m. until the time of the service. Cremation will take place with private burial at Southlawn Cemetery. Welsheimer Family Funeral Home is assisting the family with arrangements.

Memorial contributions in Velva's name may be made to First United Methodist Church, 333 N. Main St., South Bend, IN 46601. Family and friends may leave email condolences at

Charitable donations may be made in Velva's memory to the following organization:

First United Methodist Church
333 N. Main St., South Bend, IN, 46601

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Jim Stebbins
   Posted Sun July 16, 2017
I have so many memories of Velva and her kind acts at First United Methodist Church. The hospitality she showed to visitors and members alike were noteworthy. She will long be remember for the integral role she played in our church family. She was a person who seemed to always remember everyone she ever met, and for that reason she will be remembered herself. Velva will be missed. May God give her family strength and comfort at this difficult time.

Diana Breden
   Posted Fri July 21, 2017
Deepest sympathies to Velva's family. She was so welcoming to all who walked through the doors at First UMC.

Helen Hibbs
   Posted Sat July 22, 2017
Deepest sympathy to all of the family. This talented lady was the mother of five of my favorite students. Helen Hibbs

Linda and Marty Quick
   Posted Sat October 28, 2017
We just were told of Velva's passing on 10-27-17, and apologize for being late in conveying our sympathies to the family. Velva was a dear sweet lady, so delightful and kind to all who knew her. We especially appreciated her friendship to Linda's father, Alfred Sherer, when Velva lived at Smith Farms at Auburn, IN. Really, she was a friend and neighbor to all who lived at Smith Farms. She always welcomed the newcomers. Her sense of humor, faith, love, and zest for life were an inspiration. Sincerest condolences to all of her family.
Mr. and Mrs. Marty Quick
Angola, IN